Wish I was Here

Posted on: 1 August, 10


What I wouldn’t give to be back on this sailboat!  Things are a bit stressful in this Mermaid’s lagoon.  I am once again reminded that crisis does not always bring out the best in people.  However, I think it brings out one’s true colors. 

We often excuse a harsh word said during a crisis because “they were upset and didn’t know what they were saying.”  I agree that they were upset and forgot to filter their true feelings.  When life is calm, we have the extra energy to choose our words more carefully, to count to ten and let small transgression go without comment.  In a crisis, we shoot from the hip and speak from that more primal, instinctive part of the brain.  It is during a crisis when a family shows what they are made of, when words are spoken that cannot be taken back. 

On the other side of the equation is the target of those barbed words who is also operating from a more vulnerable place.  The recipient is less able to rationalize away the hurtful words.  There is no extra energy to reframe callous comments into something more palatable. 

A crisis shows what a family is really made of.  My boys have risen to the occasion, like I knew they would.  Poor C’s birthday has been shoved to the back burner.  He said, “Don’t worry.  I have so much already.  We can do something when things calm down.”  J  is being extra nice to make C’s birthday as special as possible.  Hubski and I are on the side, trying to gently steer the others through these rough waters.  My little family has shown what they are made of, and it is good stuff.  Some others could take a lesson.


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